About
Me
Hi, Don't want to write too much about myself here.
Hi, Don't want to write too much about myself here.
[Heaven
forbid you should know what I'm really like]
I
am fun, honest and genuine and strongly believe in treating people
the way you yourself expect to be treated.[Unlike all the
others who claim to be dull, dishonest and fake and who say they
believe in treating people badly]
I
do enjoy going out and having a vodka or two, but also just as happy
to chill out at home with good company.[I like going out, but
I also like staying in]
I
have chosen 'looking for a relationship' option but certainly not
wanting to rush into anything....what will be will be
[I
may be looking for something serious but reserve the right to dump
you if you start getting clingy]
I
don't mean to appear rude if I don't reply to a message, just don't
want to waste your time or mine.
[Give
it your best shot but don't be surprised if you fail to meet my
incredibly high standards]
Just
what exactly are you supposed to write to someone like that? She has
revealed precisely nothing about her personality (other then how
capricious and indecisive she is), any interests that you may have in
common, or much of any reason at all why you would want to
date her.
But,
the sad truth is that this sort of profile is good enough to ensure
that a woman with reasonably attractive photos will attract plenty of
interest. And, given that she hadn't written anything truly awful
that would immediately rule her out as a potential prospect (no sign
of mad catwoman tendencies, hideously chavvy children, or merchant
navy grade tattoos), I was forced to send her one of my standard
opening mails.
I
wished it were otherwise. I wished online dating was actually the way
I thought it would be when I first started: selecting perhaps one or
two from a series of detailed profiles, where it seemed we really had
something in common and there was that magical "chemistry".
Then, writing something considered and meaningful, that touched upon
our potential connection ... and, who knows, maybe even some woman
doing something similar to me?
That
notion was swiftly disabused by the appallingly low signal-to-noise
ratio found on online dating sites. Basically, to get a reply, you
had send at least ten mails, and chances are that one reply won't be
followed up any further. I had, of course, very little idea what the
female experience of dating sites was, and, while I expected it was
probably also pretty negative (most guys are arseholes, after all),
it had to be different. It really was just an online version
of the old bar or club, with the few girls dressed up and looking
pretty, while massively outnumbered by all the horny guys constantly
trying to hit on them in various unsubtle ways.
So,
I was resigned to it being a numbers game. But, at least, unlike that
old bar or club, the online process was vastly cheaper, less
humiliating and more efficient. So, if one was prepared to send out
opening mails with the frequency of a black market Viagra supplier,
one would eventually find a few takers.
And,
so it proved, with a number of replies which seemed quite promising.
